First off, let me say
that I love the title for this post. It is just the sort of thing that should
be aggravating enough to generate a response. But I actually intend to be
careful in how I come across. On the one hand, I do want to share my opinion
and I think I have that right. Wisdom is wisdom, whether it is stated by a man
or a woman, because it ultimately comes from God. Women have taught me a lot
about what a man should be. There is nothing wrong in returning the favor, if I
have something helpful to say. On the other hand, I want to do everything I can
to avoid the appearance of being chauvinistic, and of suggesting that I know
better than women by the mere virtue of being a man. What I really hope to do
here is share something out of the Bible, not lord it over anyone. I may not be
able to keep it from being perceived in a bad light by some, but I certainly do
not mean it that way, and I hope I can be given the benefit of the doubt.
The Pay Gap
So, with that said, I
suppose it is time to step out into the minefield. I began writing this last
week, and in my first draft I made a comment about how the “wage gap” had gone
without being a news item for a little while. I was going to bring it up thanks
to two little pop-culture references I had seen a few days before. Ironically,
it has come back into the news thanks to Patricia Arquette’s Oscar speech and
the US Department of Labor taking up her call to action. My timing could hardly
be better (but I want credit for being ahead of the curve!)
Many people are concerned
that women only make a fraction of what men do, 77 cents on the dollar. It is
often implied, or even stated outright, that there is a gap in pay between men
and women who perform the same job and with the same qualifications. But this
is not quite the case, which is explained well in this article
from Time. The gap is between all
men and all women working full-time, and therefore does not take into account differences in profession, education, seniority, and a number of other factors.
When these are corrected, there is essentially no gap at all. What little
remains can be explained by variables too difficult to quantify.
There may not be a gap
when we compare one-on-one and look at men and women who share similar
circumstances. But still, there is little question that all working women make less than all working men. Many who advocate for women see this as an
injustice in itself, regardless of the equality that exists across the various fields.
They see it as a deeper sexism, with women forced into careers in less
lucrative fields, or into taking time away to have children or raise families.
All women make less because they do not have the same choices as men. Or so the
argument goes.
Cultural Expectations
This leads us to my
question, though. What should women want? And depending on how you look at it,
I am not really the one asking. Feminists talk about institutional restraints,
but that is honestly a bit unfair. It assumes women would not choose to stay at
home, or to pick careers that are less profitable but perhaps more fulfilling.
By arguing for the elimination of the absolute pay gap, they are saying women
ought to value money more than anything else.
Perhaps they would
respond, women should value money because that is what our culture values. But
such thinking seems equally flawed. Why play into the culture when you deem it
the source of oppression in the first place? In fact, I would even agree that
culture is a corrupting influence. It has given consumerism a place of primary
importance. How much do you make? What do you own? It is shameful that such
things should be the measure of a man. Why should women be chained to the same
standard?
That is the irony of the
whole situation. A number of women work for a wage not because they want to,
but because they are pressured to do so. They feel forced to work so they can
afford the lifestyle expected of them. To my eyes, that is real oppression. If a woman feels like she has to work because that is what feminism has “won” for her, where is the
freedom in that? Activists who argue over women making less than men do only
perpetuate this troubling scenario.
Of course, a day may come
when they see the truth of this and the pendulum swings the opposite direction.
Maybe feminists will tell women to stay at home and refuse to work, forcing
their husbands to take care of them. I think that would be swinging too far the
other way, but at least it would recognize the truth of our current situation.
The Biblical Answer
What does the Bible have
to say about all of this, though? Well, it takes something of a moderate
position, with women captive neither to the home nor to the office. This can be
seen in the Proverb of the Virtuous Wife, found in Proverbs 31:10-31. Rather
than copy the entire thing here, you can follow this
link to read it. It presents the ideal woman, to whom all women should
aspire and for whom all men should seek. She is trustworthy, caring,
charitable, industrious, economical, clever, prudent, and modest. Her home is
her kingdom, not her jail cell. She does make money, but money has no power
over her and is not her primary responsibility or goal. She looks out for her
husband’s interests, but after all, they are her interests, as well. She knows
that they are one, and his honor is hers. Above all, her desire is for wisdom,
which means respecting the Lord God. This is not a woman who “knows her place.”
This is a woman who has made her place a home. Why should there be no honor in
that, just because we cannot put a numerical value on her efforts? Why should
she not be happy that her husband is pleased with her? It makes it so that his
desire is for her to be pleased with him. They work together. They are truly
equal.
Virtues make a person,
man or woman, excellent. You can make a seven-figure salary and still be
miserable (or make other people miserable). If you have virtue, though, you
will find the fulfillment of a job well done, no matter what the job. Then you
will see more clearly the difference between fighting for equality, and
complaining for its own sake. What I mean to say is that women should want what
men should want, which is to live lives that are blessings. Money should only
ever be a tool, not a goal. If your family would be better off with you at
home, then be at home and know you are doing work of which you can be proud.
Remember whose example we are all following. As far as we know, Jesus never
made any real money (except one time when He literally made money. Check out
Matthew 17:24-27). Wealth was not His goal. If it had been, He would have
stayed in heaven. But He came here to show us that the best thing in life is to
love and to be loved. Let that be what your families see in you. You can never
be richer than that.
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